Hello MommE's,
Today's topic is one that sparks lots of attention and playground discussions. What do you do when your child doesn't like your ex's new Beau? A very good friend and I have been debating what happens when a child doesn't like the new person in your life or or Ex's life.
As a child, my parents separated when I was merely 2 years old. My dad and my stepmother have been together since I was about 5 years old while my mother dated (been in long term relationships) and is now remarrying. Over the years there have been men my mom dated that my sister and I didn't like but we had no say in the matter. We were to be respectful and that was that. And over the years the relationship with my step-mom has changed and gone from me not liking her to me respecting and understanding her much more. But again I had no say on if my dad would stay with her or not.
So now I am chatting with a friend who tells me her 4 year old doesn't like his fathers girlfriend. Her son has told her the woman is rude. When she asks her ex, he explains that nothing has ever happened and as a matter of fact the woman has little interaction with their son. In our conversation she continues by saying she doesn't feel her son should have to be around the girlfriend if he doesn't want to be.
So my response, don't be silly. Nothing has happened. Your son is 4 years old and he has no say! Many times as children we see things the way we want to see them and if we even have an inkling we can get our way we will try to. If her son thinks mommy doesn't like the new girlfriend well he doesn't have to either. Let it go. Keep an open line of communication with your son to make sure there are no issues but other then that move on. Pick your battles with your ex because along the way their will be plenty. And what happens when the shoe is on the other foot. When you get into a relationship and your precious boy doesn't agree. Do you want your ex calling you with nonsense?
So MommE's and DaddE's what do you think? This mom is looking for opinions and suggestions. Feel free to make a comment on the blog or comment on the FB page.
Just remember its MommE-Talk!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
She Colors My Day
The relationship between a mother and daughter is a dynamic that cant be explained. It is quite different from that of a mother and son and even that of a father and son. The mom and daughter team is unstoppable but can also have such opposition.
I grew up in a single parent home. My mother was the soul provider to two daughters. Imagine that household of 3 women hahaha the estrogen was flowing. But my mother deserves the utmost respect. She did a damn good job of raising my sister and I if I do say so myself.
I must admit growing up I wasn't the easiest child to deal with. I have always been opinionated and would never hold my tongue for anyone, my mother included. Although it frustrated my mother and I ended up on punishment many nights, she never once tried to change me. While others compared me to my sister, she continued to foster my own identity and helped me become the strong women I am today. She made sure I could cook, and clean (although this is my least favorite thing of all) and most importantly she made sure I valued education.
My mother worked hard to give us things and make up for the fact that my dad lived states away. She not only made it happen with us but she was and still is a major factor in the lives of our family. She worked all day and came home and cooked dinner for my sister and I as well as my 2 younger cousins (who are more like sisters). Saturday mornings were filled with great breakfasts, home fries biscuits eggs and sausage, or pancakes and french toast. We never had cereal or things like ravioli, mommy made sure she cooked daily.
When I finally got old enough to tend for myself my mom enrolled in school. To my surprise we would graduate together from college LOL me on sunday and she on thursday. She shows me that nothing should ever stand in the way of your dreams. She taught me that although there is struggle you will get what you want as long as you work hard for it.
I am now a mother and my daughter cherishes my mom. In her words "Nana Loves me the most" LOL. She has been such a help in my life and is a wonderful grandmother. My only wish is to be half the mother she is and be able to teach Jade the same things she has taught me. I love my mother greatly and would like to thank her for all of the sacrifices and hard work.
Many of us take advantage of our parents! But please be sure to stop and say thank you, tell them how much you appreciate and love them. I know I will be doing so tonight and I will be smiling bright as I watch my mom get married this summer.
I wrote this post today in honor of the She Colors my Day Project.
* The she colors my day project began when a mother named Annette, dying of breast cancer, created a keepsake for the four daughters she was preparing to leave behind. Annette sent a c.d. of she and her daughters singing to her many friends and family. Unbeknown to Annette, her act of love would
be the inspiration for her friend, Cristina Carlino, founder of Project Miracle and former CEO of philosophy, to ignite the she colors my day movement - a celebration of the never-ending bonds of mothers and daughters. The now worldwide she colors my day movement embarks upon a global journey to create for a cure.
I grew up in a single parent home. My mother was the soul provider to two daughters. Imagine that household of 3 women hahaha the estrogen was flowing. But my mother deserves the utmost respect. She did a damn good job of raising my sister and I if I do say so myself.
I must admit growing up I wasn't the easiest child to deal with. I have always been opinionated and would never hold my tongue for anyone, my mother included. Although it frustrated my mother and I ended up on punishment many nights, she never once tried to change me. While others compared me to my sister, she continued to foster my own identity and helped me become the strong women I am today. She made sure I could cook, and clean (although this is my least favorite thing of all) and most importantly she made sure I valued education.
My mother worked hard to give us things and make up for the fact that my dad lived states away. She not only made it happen with us but she was and still is a major factor in the lives of our family. She worked all day and came home and cooked dinner for my sister and I as well as my 2 younger cousins (who are more like sisters). Saturday mornings were filled with great breakfasts, home fries biscuits eggs and sausage, or pancakes and french toast. We never had cereal or things like ravioli, mommy made sure she cooked daily.
When I finally got old enough to tend for myself my mom enrolled in school. To my surprise we would graduate together from college LOL me on sunday and she on thursday. She shows me that nothing should ever stand in the way of your dreams. She taught me that although there is struggle you will get what you want as long as you work hard for it.
I am now a mother and my daughter cherishes my mom. In her words "Nana Loves me the most" LOL. She has been such a help in my life and is a wonderful grandmother. My only wish is to be half the mother she is and be able to teach Jade the same things she has taught me. I love my mother greatly and would like to thank her for all of the sacrifices and hard work.
Many of us take advantage of our parents! But please be sure to stop and say thank you, tell them how much you appreciate and love them. I know I will be doing so tonight and I will be smiling bright as I watch my mom get married this summer.
I wrote this post today in honor of the She Colors my Day Project.
* The she colors my day project began when a mother named Annette, dying of breast cancer, created a keepsake for the four daughters she was preparing to leave behind. Annette sent a c.d. of she and her daughters singing to her many friends and family. Unbeknown to Annette, her act of love would
be the inspiration for her friend, Cristina Carlino, founder of Project Miracle and former CEO of philosophy, to ignite the she colors my day movement - a celebration of the never-ending bonds of mothers and daughters. The now worldwide she colors my day movement embarks upon a global journey to create for a cure.
Friday, April 2, 2010
Free Weekend Events
Happy Friday MommE's and DaddE's here are some free weekend events! Enjoy the weather and if your religious enjoy this religious weekend!
Friday, April 3, 2010Easter Eggstravaganza2:00pm
Queens Library, Long Island City 37-44 21st St, btwn 36th and 37th ave
Hamlet, Prince of Denmark
Tonight–Tomorrow 7pm, Tue–Thu 7pm Ongoing through Apr 18.
World Financial Center Plaza 220 Vessey St
Target Free First Friday Night
Today 5pm–8pm
Children's Museum of Manhattan 212 W 83rd St, between Amsterdam Ave and Broadway
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Annual Crotona Park Easter Egg Hunt
12:00 p.m.–3:00 p.m.
Easter Celebration
12:00pm-4:oopm
Detective Keith L Williams Park Queens12:00pm-4:oopm
Let's Go to the Movies
1:00pm
Unscrambling the Egg
1:00pm-3:00pm
Audubon Center at the Boathouse (Prospect Park)
Audubon Center at the Boathouse (Prospect Park)
Spring Celebration
Easter Scavenger Hunt
11:00 a.m.
Rose and Oak avenues (in Kissena Park), Queens
Rose and Oak avenues (in Kissena Park), Queens
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