I'm Back

I have been gone for awhile on the blog and I am so sorry. I have not forgot you guys but have been working on bringing the MommE-Shop to fruition as well as working on events for you MommE's and your children.

But today I am so frustrated that I have to write and vent and I hope you don't mind. Today I need to ask when do Dadde's grow up? When does it register for them that someone else needs them and relies heavily on them? When do priorities kick in?

For most mothers the moment you are told you are pregnant your life changes. Gone are the days of partying and drinking with your friends instead we welcome sickness, tiredness and body aches. Gone are the days of frivolous spending and unhealthy eating but we now say hello to setting a budget and creating a savings account and a new diet to protect this precious life inside you. But for some men this doesn't happen.

I have spent 3 years hoping and praying this man would grow up and realize his children come first! Not first in his book but first for real. The needs and wants of them trump you wanting to go away or having a day off. Their needs and wants are more important then you and your issues at work. Unfortunately that has not happened yet.

We moms are told to hold our heads, to pray about it, to work hard and focus on our children. We are forced to ask others for help while we struggle, cry, yell and smile for the kids. We do it all with nothing at all while they live their lives and smile at the progress of the child.

I pray that any male reading this understands this is not a bash but a push to do better. Step back and think about how you would want a dude to treat your daughter in the future or your sister. Understand that your children need you ALL the time and your child's mother respects a man who does the right thing ALL the time. For the males who do right be sure to tell your friends that YOU KNOW are doing wrong to step up. Tell them to man up and be a better father for those kids because if you don't who will.

For all the MommE's reading this who are struggling to make it happen remember there are others out there just like you and all you can do is your best. Your happiness creates a happy baby and a happy baby is all we want. For those of you who are fortunate enough to have a great significant other and father of your child be sure to tell him thank you and how much you appreciate the help he gives. Remember all of us are not as blessed as you and you want to keep that man feeling happy and appreciated.

The black family is struggling and its up to us to fix it folks!

Have a great Weekend!