Happy Sunday and Happy Fathers day to all the DaddE's and Single MommE's reading this post.
Every year for Fathers day many people, both men and women, speak on the subject of dead beats, the past two years I have begun to see posts of people who are upset at the bashing. These people feel that its inappropriate and that it shouldn't be acknowledged on this day. So I ask this: Do you same people step up and speak to your friends, brother, cousins, uncles, fraternity brothers etc and express your discontent with them not handling their business? Are you as vocal with them about not calling their sons and daughters, about missing graduations, about not giving financial support to their children all throughout the year? Do you sit them down and explain that their children need them, they need to hear from them, they need to see them and not just on holidays when its time for some sort of pat on the back but all year round? Do you put up Facebook stats yelling at them for being dirtbags when you know that they are doing nothing to help fix the problem of single parenting in our communities? Or do you just ignore all you know because its not your problem and you don't want to get involved? Do you sit quietly and watch the mother struggle and the child cry when dad doesn't show up or call back?
In the mist of writing this post I spoke to my cousin, a father who goes above and beyond for his children and expressed my concerns. His response is he just wishes that single fathers got the same reaction on mothers day. And while i agree whole heartedly I wonder how many people know as many single fathers as they know single mothers? And why are the single mothers blamed for their choice in the man they had a child with while single fathers are praised for stepping up to the plate and doing what women do all the time?
At the end of the day this year I put my feelings for loser men to the side and instead of posting bashing status' and tweets I decided to post this blog instead. What are your thoughts on the subject MommE's and DaddE's...To bash or not to bash?
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Thursday, June 7, 2012
Where Do You Cry?
They say tears are a way for you to clear out emotion to see more clearly so why is it that things seem more blurry then ever.
While I know life is a journey with many hills and valleys, twists and turns I wonder when this girl will hit a patch of clear smooth road. I took a chance and uprooted my daughter from the comforts of family and friends to a place where we knew few. I felt it would be the best thing for us as a family. So on the one hand things for Jade are much better, she will be attending a private school on almost a full scholarship, and she will be able to join a great dance company at an affordable price. But for me things haven't been great at all I have lost my job, realized that the relationship I had with my father was not at all reality and am struggling to make it in a way I never thought possible all while still smiling so that Jade never has a clue of what is going on.
Yes I know what most people will say: "Things will get better!" "Take it one day at a time!" oh and I can't forget "God has a plan for you!" And yes the reasonable side of my brain, the side where my faith is compartmentalized, where my love for friends and family lie, the side where I understand I am in this journey for the long hall, the smarter me understands all of this. But there is still the side of me that just wants to cry. I want to cry until I cant cry anymore. I want the ugly cry where your body goes into convulsions and you cant make sounds. I want to cry myself to sleep, a sleep so good I don't think about any of my struggles. But where can I cry?
At first I cried in my bed at night but that proved unsuccessful when Jade would pop up in my bed with me. I then tried going on rides alone and crying but that wasn't a good idea either. So now I take showers and cry my eyes out. I figure if Jade does walk in she will think the water on my face is just from the shower and I will still be the super strong woman she knows me to be.
So single MommE's and DaddE's where do you cry?
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Nightmares
6:30am my door opens and I hear "mommy can I get in your bed?"
My first reaction is "NO! Get back in your bed!" but something tells me to open my eyes and look at Jade and as I do I hear the sobs and see the tears. Immediately I wake up and ask what is wrong? I didn't know what to expect but the words that came next even scared me:
"I had a nightmare that you died!"
After listening to Jades nightmare about me being attacked at a carnival and beaten to death in front of her I didn't know what to do or say at firs. Eventually I went into MommE mode: hugs, kisses, and cuddling (in my bed of course) and I explained that it was just a dream and I was ok. Although I seemed to calm her down I was a wreck.
After dropping Jade to school that day I came home and googled nightmares in children and this is what I found:
Web MD states:
Nightmares occur from time to time in many children, but they are most common in preschoolers (children aged 3-6 years) because this is the age at which normal fears develop and a child’s imagination is very active. Some studies estimate that as many as 50% of children in this age group have nightmares. Nightmares involve frightening or unpleasant dreams that disrupt the child's sleep on several occasions and cause distress or problems with everyday life. When children wake up because of a nightmare, they become aware of their surroundings and usually need comfort. As a result, these children often wake up their parents as well.
Jodi Mindell, PHD listed these coping mechanisms on the sleepfoundation.org:
My first reaction is "NO! Get back in your bed!" but something tells me to open my eyes and look at Jade and as I do I hear the sobs and see the tears. Immediately I wake up and ask what is wrong? I didn't know what to expect but the words that came next even scared me:
"I had a nightmare that you died!"
After listening to Jades nightmare about me being attacked at a carnival and beaten to death in front of her I didn't know what to do or say at firs. Eventually I went into MommE mode: hugs, kisses, and cuddling (in my bed of course) and I explained that it was just a dream and I was ok. Although I seemed to calm her down I was a wreck.
After dropping Jade to school that day I came home and googled nightmares in children and this is what I found:
Web MD states:
Nightmares occur from time to time in many children, but they are most common in preschoolers (children aged 3-6 years) because this is the age at which normal fears develop and a child’s imagination is very active. Some studies estimate that as many as 50% of children in this age group have nightmares. Nightmares involve frightening or unpleasant dreams that disrupt the child's sleep on several occasions and cause distress or problems with everyday life. When children wake up because of a nightmare, they become aware of their surroundings and usually need comfort. As a result, these children often wake up their parents as well.
Jodi Mindell, PHD listed these coping mechanisms on the sleepfoundation.org:
- Listen and understand. Try to understand your child’s fears, and don't dismiss or make fun of them.
- Reassurance. It is important to reassure your child if he is afraid.
- Teach coping skills. Teach your child coping skills and discuss alternative ways to respond, such as "being brave" and thinking positive thoughts;
- Use your imagination and be creative. Use your imagination to fight imaginary fears, like monsters. Many families have found “monster spray” to be a wonderful way to help a child cope with bedtime fears. Some children are comforted by having a pet nearby for nighttime company (even a bedside fish tank may help). Whenever possible, have your child be actively involved in coming up with solutions to help him gain a sense of mastery and control.
- Nightlight. No matter what your child seems to be afraid of, a night-light can help. Nightlights are fine as long as it does not prevent your child from falling asleep. Another thing to try is leaving the bedroom door open so that your child doesn't feel isolated from the rest of the family.
- Avoid scary television shows. Keep your child away from scary TV shows, videos or stories that may add to his fears.
- Discuss your child’s fears during the day. Talk to your child about his fears during the day and how he can be less frightened at night. Additionally, build your child's self-confidence during the day. If he feels secure during the day, this can help him feel more secure at night, too.
- Have him stay in his bed. Don't encourage your child to get out of bed. He should stay in bed and find out for himself that he really is safe so that he can learn to overcome his fears.
- Check on him. If your child is anxious about you leaving, check on him frequently. It is better to check on him on a predictable schedule, every 5 or 10 minutes, so that your coming and reassuring him is not based on him crying or calling out for you.
- Star system. Some children get reinforced for being scared at night by getting lots of attention for being afraid. If this is the case, switch the scenario. Tell him how proud you are of him for being brave. Set up a star system so he can earn stars for being brave and sleeping on his own. After earning a certain number of stars, he can turn them in for a treat, such as watching a favorite video, going to the park, or baking chocolate chip cookies
Since that night Jade has slept well and Im ever so grateful for that but I thought if I'm experiencing this there must be other parents going through the same things. I hope this info can help you in some way. And I hope you leave comments with what helped you and your children.
Until Next time MommE's!
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Graduation
This weekend my baby girl graduates from Pre-K. The school asked for pictures of her to show her progress over the past 4 years. So while I looked through pictures I also took a walk down memory lane. I have come a long way these past 5 years as a mom and as a woman and I am so proud of me. I have survived being a single mom, court battles, being laid off of work, moving to a new city and so much more. I have cried rivers, seen counselors, and thought I would never make it through this thing called life. While I know I have a long way to go, and I am still facing many challenges I can pat my self on the back and say way to go Sakinah.
Being a mom has taught me that while I'm not perfect Im a good person. I give way too much of myself and am often taken advantage of (mostly by the people who claim to love me most). I have learned that although I have always known my dad I have never had a REAL relationship with him and I see the cycle repeating itself. I have learned that most of the characteristics I detest in my dad are the same characteristics I detest in men and so I must change my patterns to find my happiness. I have learned its ok to ask for help because the reality is there is NO WAY IN HELL to do it all by myself. But mostly I have learned that I make Jade happy and that is the ONLY thing that matters.
So as I get my baby girl ready for her big day I realize I am graduating too. I am leaving behind the days of beating myself up, of trying to please everyone else, and of trying to be superwoman and I am now moving into the next stage of my life...PUTTING ME FIRST, SMILING MORE, AND KEEPING JADE HAPPY.
Until next time!!!
Being a mom has taught me that while I'm not perfect Im a good person. I give way too much of myself and am often taken advantage of (mostly by the people who claim to love me most). I have learned that although I have always known my dad I have never had a REAL relationship with him and I see the cycle repeating itself. I have learned that most of the characteristics I detest in my dad are the same characteristics I detest in men and so I must change my patterns to find my happiness. I have learned its ok to ask for help because the reality is there is NO WAY IN HELL to do it all by myself. But mostly I have learned that I make Jade happy and that is the ONLY thing that matters.
So as I get my baby girl ready for her big day I realize I am graduating too. I am leaving behind the days of beating myself up, of trying to please everyone else, and of trying to be superwoman and I am now moving into the next stage of my life...PUTTING ME FIRST, SMILING MORE, AND KEEPING JADE HAPPY.
Until next time!!!
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
I'm baaaack!
Its been a long time since my last post and so much has happened. I don't even know where to begin, however be prepared MommE's and DaddE's because I will be back posting at least once a week and letting you come along with me on my journey. We will talk about education, travel, relationships, careers, families and a lot more. So get ready to board the MommE train with me again.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
Powerful message to mothers and women
I started reading a new book and the first few pages were a special message to women. While reading it I thought it was definitely something necessary to send to my readers, those of you who are mothers and those of you who are want to be a mother in the future.
In the opening pages of Mary B Morrison's Who's Loving You the author writes:
This passage struck me hard. I read and re-read a number of times. Hindsight is 20/20 but I know for sure that moving forward in any relationship including the interaction between myself and Jades father that this isn't about him or the little he has done to bring this beautiful child into the world and keep her safe while she is here. Its about Me and all I will continue to do to bring her up to be a strong woman who understands the value of being a women and learns the mistakes of so many women before her.
In the opening pages of Mary B Morrison's Who's Loving You the author writes:
Hear me when I say, "no one will ever treat you worse then you treat yourself," and no one should treat you better. When times get hard- we all experience hard times- and there seems to be no way out... keep breathing. Live another second, hold on another minute, hang in there another hour, and with each passing moment, know that your internal beauty is the pure essence of the greatest love, because without you; without your womanly nurturing, your motherly instincts, your ability to breathe life into every living human being; without women, MEN WOULD CEASE TO EXIST!!!!
Don't let men brainwash you into believing they hold the power in a relationship. THEY DON'T. Giving birth is the highest power of procreation. Men can't do that. So, ladies don't have babies for men who aren't worthy of your power.
Don't let men brainwash you into believing they hold the power in a relationship. THEY DON'T. Giving birth is the highest power of procreation. Men can't do that. So, ladies don't have babies for men who aren't worthy of your power.
This passage struck me hard. I read and re-read a number of times. Hindsight is 20/20 but I know for sure that moving forward in any relationship including the interaction between myself and Jades father that this isn't about him or the little he has done to bring this beautiful child into the world and keep her safe while she is here. Its about Me and all I will continue to do to bring her up to be a strong woman who understands the value of being a women and learns the mistakes of so many women before her.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
MommE- Mondays:Recall
Good Morning MommE's and DaddE's,
I missed my MommE Monday's this week but here is the make-up post! RECALLS:
The past few months have been filled with recalls on products for children and it doesn't seem to be letting up. As of October 23, 2010 the newest recall is HYLAND"S TEETHING TABLETS. According to the company the tablets are manufactured to contain a small amount of belladonna, a substance that can cause serious harm at a larger dose. This recall involves Hyland's Teething Tablets with the following UPC codes: # 3 54973 75041, # 3 54973 75042, # 3 54973 75066, # 3 54973 75044, # 3 54973 75121, and # 3 54973 35109.
Immediately stop using this product and dispose of any tablets in your possession. If your child experiences symptoms such as seizures, difficulty breathing, lethargy, excessive sleepiness, muscle weakness, skin flushing, constipation, difficulty urinating, or agitation after using Hyland's Teething Tablets, consult your health care professional. Any adverse reactions may also be reported to the FDA's MedWatch Program by fax at 1-800-FDA-0178, by mail at MedWatch, FDA, 5600 Fishers Lane, Rockville, MD 20852-9787, or on the MedWatch Web site at fda.gov/medwatch FOR MORE INFORMATION:fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm230761.htm
Hope this helps!!!
I missed my MommE Monday's this week but here is the make-up post! RECALLS:
The past few months have been filled with recalls on products for children and it doesn't seem to be letting up. As of October 23, 2010 the newest recall is HYLAND"S TEETHING TABLETS. According to the company the tablets are manufactured to contain a small amount of belladonna, a substance that can cause serious harm at a larger dose. This recall involves Hyland's Teething Tablets with the following UPC codes: # 3 54973 75041, # 3 54973 75042, # 3 54973 75066, # 3 54973 75044, # 3 54973 75121, and # 3 54973 35109.
Immediately stop using this product and dispose of any tablets in your possession. If your child experiences symptoms such as seizures, difficulty breathing, lethargy, excessive sleepiness, muscle weakness, skin flushing, constipation, difficulty urinating, or agitation after using Hyland's Teething Tablets, consult your health care professional. Any adverse reactions may also be reported to the FDA's MedWatch Program by fax at 1-800-FDA-0178, by mail at MedWatch, FDA, 5600 Fishers Lane, Rockville, MD 20852-9787, or on the MedWatch Web site at fda.gov/medwatch FOR MORE INFORMATION:fda.gov/NewsEvents/Newsroom/PressAnnouncements/ucm230761.htm
Hope this helps!!!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
MommE Mondays
HI all,
I know I'm a few days off, but even this blogging MommE needs to enjoy vacations. This week we are going to focus on the many wives tales and myths surrounding pregnancy.
Carrying High, Carrying Low
This is it for now! I hope this helps some of you realize that as a pregnant woman you can still live a normal life. This is not to say there aren't many real issues that pregnant woman face and if you have any questions or concerns you should contact your OB/GYN not your friend from up the block whose grandmother has advice.
*Just a note all information in today's post was found on the following websites:
pregnancy-info.net
storknet.com
kidshealth.org
babiesonline.com
pregnancy.lovetoknow. com
I know I'm a few days off, but even this blogging MommE needs to enjoy vacations. This week we are going to focus on the many wives tales and myths surrounding pregnancy.
Carrying High, Carrying Low
The general story goes that, if you're carrying low, you're having a boy. If you are carrying high, then you must be having a girl. Science says "NO, NO, NO!" to this: the way you carry is determined by muscle and uterine tone as well as the position of your baby.
Choking the baby with the umbilical cord:
If you hold your arms above your head, your baby's umbilical cord will get wrapped around its head and choke it. This myth may have a spiritual basis or it may have been a way to keep women from doing anything when they were pregnant (perhaps the myth was created by an overworked mother?). However, if your baby gets caught up in its umbilical cord (which happens in about a 1/3 of births) it is because your baby was very fidgety inside of you and moved around a lot, not because of you.
Bathing while pregnant:
A pregnant woman should not take baths. This myth is routed in the belief that water can get into the vagina and thereby introduce bacteria to the baby. Scientists have proven that water does not enter a woman's vagina during a bath. In fact, baths will probably help pregnant women feel better by helping them relax.Don't breastfeed a toddler during pregnancy because the new baby needs all the nourishment it can get.
False. If a woman is healthy, breastfeeding during pregnancy won't harm her, the fetus, or her toddler. (A doctor may recommend that a pregnant woman not breastfeed, though, if she has a nutritional deficiency, is underweight, or is at risk for pre-term labor.)
If You Have Heartburn During Pregnancy Your Baby Has A Lot of Hair
Because of there being less room in your stomach since there is a baby growing and pushing on it, heartburn is actually extremely common during those nine months. There is no proof or reason to believe that having heartburn is a sign of a baby being born with a head full of hair.
Stop eating spicy food
People say spicy foods can cause premature labor. Think about it: do women from cultures that adore hot, spicy foods switch to a bland diet when they get pregnant? Nope, it's just another one of those pregnancy old wives tales. They still enjoy their favorite dishes and you can, too. You may find that spicy foods trigger heartburn or indigestion, though, in which case you'll want to hold off until after the pregnancy.
This is it for now! I hope this helps some of you realize that as a pregnant woman you can still live a normal life. This is not to say there aren't many real issues that pregnant woman face and if you have any questions or concerns you should contact your OB/GYN not your friend from up the block whose grandmother has advice.
*Just a note all information in today's post was found on the following websites:
pregnancy-info.net
storknet.com
kidshealth.org
babiesonline.com
pregnancy.lovetoknow. com
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
WorldWide Wednesday
Good Afternoon MommE's and DaddE's welcome to WorldWide Wednesdays. For those of you who know me personally you know I love to travel and this year was Jade's first vacation. After seeing how much she loved the experience I decided I wanted to share travel tips, deals, and adventures with you. I will also post cheap deals for JUST THE PARENTS, as a happy mommE and daddE is just as important.
First stop Montego Bay, Jamaica
First stop Montego Bay, Jamaica
Entertainment/Activities
I loved Jamaica and the resort that we stayed in The Sunset Beach Resort and Spa. This resort was very family friendly. From a childcare system to a children's pool complete with water slide for the older kids and a baby slide for the toddlers. Even on rainy days the fun didn't stop as the resort provided family friendly entertainment, Jade even won a prize for participating in a dance contest.
In the evening the resort had many different activities to attend, a childrens talent showcase was held one night, as well as a "fashion show. " And for the sake of all guests at the hotel all activities died down by 2am.
I loved Jamaica and the resort that we stayed in The Sunset Beach Resort and Spa. This resort was very family friendly. From a childcare system to a children's pool complete with water slide for the older kids and a baby slide for the toddlers. Even on rainy days the fun didn't stop as the resort provided family friendly entertainment, Jade even won a prize for participating in a dance contest.
In the evening the resort had many different activities to attend, a childrens talent showcase was held one night, as well as a "fashion show. " And for the sake of all guests at the hotel all activities died down by 2am.
Pricing
The pricing was great as well. Sunset Resort Beach and Spa is an all-inclusive resort. Children under 3 are FREE and children aged 3-12 are half priced for their stay. They also receive wrist bands.
Doctor/Convenient stores etc.
On the resort property is a doctors office and thankfully I didn't need to use them. They also had a gift shop and convenient store on the property selling items like suntan lotion, floaties, life vests, combs, and brushes. I was able to buy Jade a life vest and floaties for only $5.
The pricing was great as well. Sunset Resort Beach and Spa is an all-inclusive resort. Children under 3 are FREE and children aged 3-12 are half priced for their stay. They also receive wrist bands.
Doctor/Convenient stores etc.
On the resort property is a doctors office and thankfully I didn't need to use them. They also had a gift shop and convenient store on the property selling items like suntan lotion, floaties, life vests, combs, and brushes. I was able to buy Jade a life vest and floaties for only $5.
Overall I enjoyed my time at the Resort, food choices were abundant, activities were everywhere, ample pool space and spacious rooms. I would definitely recommend these resort for families.
http://www.sunsetbeachresort.com/
http://www.sunsetbeachresort.com/
Monday, October 11, 2010
MommE Mondays
With so many people around me pregnant or new mothers I decided to start a MommE Monday column. Every Monday I will answer a question that was asked of me about pregnancy or being a new mom and if I haven't received a question I will take the time to address an issue that I think is very important.
This week I am going to start with the age old LIE that says when your pregnant your eating for two! In one word that is BULLSHIT! So many women find out they are pregnant and all of a sudden they are soooo hungry, and having cravings and you begin to hear well I'm eating for two now so I might as well have more. NO that is not true.
According to BabyCenter.com: Your body becomes more efficient during pregnancy and is able to absorb more of the nutrients you eat. So consuming twice as much doesn't double your chances of having a healthy baby – instead, it's likely to mean excessive weight gain for you, which can put you at risk for pregnancy complications.
If you're at a healthy weight, you need no additional calories in the first trimester, about 300 extra calories a day in the second trimester, and about 450 extra calories a day in the third trimester. If you're overweight or underweight, you'll need more or less than this depending on your weight gain goal.
BabyCenter.com gives some pointers on how to maximize your diet:
www.babycenter.com
www.mypregnancyguide.com
www.whattoexpect.com and
www.smartmama.com
These websites will send you weekly alerts and what is going on with your body through your pregnancy as well as what to expect with a newborn.
Remember if you have any questions that you want addressed on MommE Mondays please send an email to ssanders@themommeshop.com or leave a message on our Facebook fan page The MommE Shop.
See ya Next week!
This week I am going to start with the age old LIE that says when your pregnant your eating for two! In one word that is BULLSHIT! So many women find out they are pregnant and all of a sudden they are soooo hungry, and having cravings and you begin to hear well I'm eating for two now so I might as well have more. NO that is not true.
According to BabyCenter.com: Your body becomes more efficient during pregnancy and is able to absorb more of the nutrients you eat. So consuming twice as much doesn't double your chances of having a healthy baby – instead, it's likely to mean excessive weight gain for you, which can put you at risk for pregnancy complications.
If you're at a healthy weight, you need no additional calories in the first trimester, about 300 extra calories a day in the second trimester, and about 450 extra calories a day in the third trimester. If you're overweight or underweight, you'll need more or less than this depending on your weight gain goal.
BabyCenter.com gives some pointers on how to maximize your diet:
Here are some tips for maximizing nutrition during pregnancy:
- To meet your daily needs for protein, calories, carbohydrates, healthy fats, and key vitamins and minerals during pregnancy, eat a variety of foods. Even within a category of foods (like vegetables), look for different colors, types, and textures, for example.
- Try to minimize "extra" foods that have calories but few nutrients – sugary beverages, fried foods, foods with extra fat and sugar. Instead, choose meals and snacks that pack the most nutrition per calorie. Adding a few nutrition-packed snacks – like yogurt, nuts, a hard-boiled egg, some fresh fruits or vegetables – to your daily intake is a great way to get the healthy calories your baby needs
- Choose foods that are as close to their natural state as possible. Pick whole-grain bread or brown rice over refined white bread or white rice, and fresh fruits or frozen unsweetened fruit over canned fruits in sugar syrup, for example.
- Eat fats, oils, and sweets sparingly. And be sure to choose healthy fats.
www.babycenter.com
www.mypregnancyguide.com
www.whattoexpect.com and
www.smartmama.com
These websites will send you weekly alerts and what is going on with your body through your pregnancy as well as what to expect with a newborn.
Remember if you have any questions that you want addressed on MommE Mondays please send an email to ssanders@themommeshop.com or leave a message on our Facebook fan page The MommE Shop.
See ya Next week!
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Dimples Spa for Kids
This past Friday was my daughters 3rd birthday. I spent weeks debating what to do, party, sleep over, BBQ??? After doing Google searches and asking friends for suggestions I came across the perfect place...a spa for kids!!
Dimples Kids Spa is located in Downtown Brooklyn on Montague between Hicks St. & Henry St. It is close to almost all trains so it is very easy to get there. It is a very small space but provides everything for your little Don or Diva. From Hair services like flat ironing and curling, to baby facials to manicures and pedicures this spa is there to cater to your child.
I made reservations for a manicure, pedicure, and face paint for Jade but she grew a bit impatient while allowing her nails to dry. So we cancelled the face paint service and that was no problem.
Overall I think the spa is great idea and the perfect place for a party or event. My only criticism is the place is a bit plain, not at all what I expected for a children's boutique. A little color to the walls would def make it more fun and hip for its clientele and its location. Also weekday appointments are much easier to come buy, weekends are filled with birthday parties.
Check out the pictures below of Jade enjoying her day and stay tuned for a Spa day event from the MommE-Shop!!!
I definitely recommend Dimples for your child's spa care needs LOL! www.dimpleskidspa.com
Friday, August 13, 2010
Free Events
Happy Friday MommE's and DaddE's summer is coming to an end but that doesn't mean the fun has to stop. Here are some free events for the weekend:
Friday
Free Shakespeare Workshop and Performance, 4pm (212-333-2552)
Target Brooklyn Community Garden
KidFlix Film Fest: Crooklyn, 7:30pm (718-230-0492)
River Flicks for Kids: Ice Age, Dawn of the Dinosaurs, 8:30pm (212-627-2121
Friday Family Movie Night, 6:15pm (718-923-9710)
The Moxie Spot (
Sunset Jam on the
Saturday
5th Annual Staten
The Baby-Sitters Club, 3pm (212-343-6166)
Scholastic Store (557 Broadway btwn Prince and Spring St)
Canoe the Meer, 11am-3pm (212-628-2345)
Central Park,
Family Day, 12pm-4pm (718-520-5916)
Mad Science: Crime Lab, 3pm (917-275-6975)
New York Public Library (
New York City’s Yorkiest Block Party, 2pm-7pm (212-254-5123)
7th Street
The NY City Children’s Festival, 11am-6pm (212-862-8477)
NYCE Carnival, 1pm-6pm
Superfront 1432 btwn
Sunday
A Closer Look for Kids, 10:20am-11:30am (212-708-9805)
August Picture Book Bonanza, 1pm-3pm (212-989-3270)
Books of Wonder (
Downtown Dance Festival, 2pm (212-691-5040
Battery Park (
Macy’s Back to School Summer Blow-Out, 12pm (212-695-4400)
Macy’s
Summer Songs and Stories, 2pm-4pm (718-789-2822)
Lefferts Historic House (
Family Mornings at Baco Café, 11:30am (718-694-2226)
Monday
Movies Under the Stars: UP, 8pm-10pm
ENJOY!!! AND IF YOU ARE HAVING AN EVENT THAT YOU WOULD LIKE POSTED BE SURE TO SEND INFORMATION TO SSANDERS@THEMOMMESHOP.COM PLEASE INCLUDE EVENT NAME, TIME, PRICE, LOCATION, AND A CONTACT NUMBER
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Baby Shower Fever
So its that time of year again, BABY SHOWER TIME...in the past month I have had friends attend about 5 baby showers and I have 2 to go to myself next month. With that being said I thought today I would highlight a good friend who you readers will be sure to love!
Are you tired of giving the same gifts all the time? Well my friend Tiffany makes Diaper Cakes as well as baskets to give as gifts. Here are some pictures of cakes she has done!
Like what you see? I'm sure you do! So if you would like to have a diaper cake made or a basket made please email her at Patterson8208@gmail.com and be sure to put diaper cake in the subject and let her know you got this information from MommE-Talk!
So guys instead of giving the same boring gift, give something fun and useful, diapers are a moms best friend!!!
If you are a MommE with a business or you have a business targeting MommE's and you want it showcased Please send all information to ssanders@themommeshop.com and be sure to put MommE-Talk in the subject line.
Until Next time its MommE-Talk!
Are you tired of giving the same gifts all the time? Well my friend Tiffany makes Diaper Cakes as well as baskets to give as gifts. Here are some pictures of cakes she has done!
Like what you see? I'm sure you do! So if you would like to have a diaper cake made or a basket made please email her at Patterson8208@gmail.com and be sure to put diaper cake in the subject and let her know you got this information from MommE-Talk!
So guys instead of giving the same boring gift, give something fun and useful, diapers are a moms best friend!!!
If you are a MommE with a business or you have a business targeting MommE's and you want it showcased Please send all information to ssanders@themommeshop.com and be sure to put MommE-Talk in the subject line.
Until Next time its MommE-Talk!
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Cod Liver Oil
When I was younger, I woke up every morning to three things: Hot 97 morning show with Ed, Lisa and Dre; a cup of juice; and COD LIVER OIL. I remember it clearly my mother standing there with the spoon in hand and a stern voice saying swallow it and I better not spill it. YUCK!!! Just the thought of how terrible it tasted makes me shiver. I made a promise that I would NEVER make my children suffer through taking this nonsense!
WELL NEVER SAY NEVER is a great phrase. LOL. I now find myself reading up and trying to purchase Cod Liver Oil for Jade. And I understand why my mother was so adamant about it. Jade started school last week and the first thing I noticed was the snotty nose little boy who coughed all over the place and wanted Jade to sit next to him. YUCK! I also realized I can not afford to take off work in the next few weeks to stay home and nurse my child back to health. So now I am searching for methods on keeping her immune system strong and the first thing that popped into my mind was COD LIVER OIL.
So now I am looking at the pro's and cons of giving it to Jade and where can it be purchased. This is what I have found:
It is one of the most reliable and concentrated food sources of four nutrients that are essential to human health: DHA, EPA, vitamin A, and vitamin D. These four nutrients are needed for:
So I guess my mom was right (I never thought I would say that LOL) and I'm now off to Kmart on my lunch break to pick up a bottle!
Whats your thoughts or home remedies?
WELL NEVER SAY NEVER is a great phrase. LOL. I now find myself reading up and trying to purchase Cod Liver Oil for Jade. And I understand why my mother was so adamant about it. Jade started school last week and the first thing I noticed was the snotty nose little boy who coughed all over the place and wanted Jade to sit next to him. YUCK! I also realized I can not afford to take off work in the next few weeks to stay home and nurse my child back to health. So now I am searching for methods on keeping her immune system strong and the first thing that popped into my mind was COD LIVER OIL.
So now I am looking at the pro's and cons of giving it to Jade and where can it be purchased. This is what I have found:
It is one of the most reliable and concentrated food sources of four nutrients that are essential to human health: DHA, EPA, vitamin A, and vitamin D. These four nutrients are needed for:
Healthy skin
Strong bones and teeth
Healthy joints
A healthy cardiovascular system
A healthy nervous system and prevention of depression and other mood disorders
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A healthy digestive tract
So I guess my mom was right (I never thought I would say that LOL) and I'm now off to Kmart on my lunch break to pick up a bottle!
Whats your thoughts or home remedies?
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
My friend GaGa
So this weekend I met Gaga, not Lady Gaga the entertainer, but Gaga Jade's new friend. Onmany occasions I have heard Jade talking to herself but thought nothing of it, she is an only child. But this weekend things were a lot more detailed. I asked Jade who she was talking to and she screamed GAGA! I said o is gaga a boy or a girl? She said a girl mommy she is right here. I said o can you tell her I said hi.
I must admit I first I thought it was hilarious, I laughed and couldn't figure out why the kids name was GaGa of all things. But then I felt a little relieved. Jade was reading to GaGa, and I had a few moments to run her bath water and get her clothes out and ready for the day, hmmm I thought this isn't so bad after all.
So instead of making her feel uncomfortable I let it be and have done an internet search on the topic. Here is what I found
According to Familyresource.com (Armin Brott) Imaginary friends can:
- They can be wonderful companions for pretend play, which is an important way to stimulate creativity and imagination. Having an invisible friend can make those long trips to the moon or back in time a little less lonely.
- They can act as a child's trusted confidant when there's no one else to tell their secrets to. Even small children have issues that are too private to tell us.
- They can help kids figure out the difference between right and wrong. Kids sometimes have a tough time stopping themselves from doing things they know are wrong. Blaming the imaginary friend for eating cookies before dinner is often a sign that the child understands right vs. wrong distinctions but isn't quite ready to assume complete responsibility for her actions.
- They can give you some valuable insights into your child's feelings. Listening to your child bravely comfort an invisible friend who's about to get a shot may be a clue that your child is more afraid than she's letting on.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
A Black Mother and her Son!
Due to many conversations and Facebook statuses I decided to talk about the relationship between a Black Mother and her son! I will talk about discipline and life lessons so sit back and relax your in for a ride!
So many times I hear black mothers saying how they will wait for their sons father to come home and then when those same boys are bigger they are so confused as to why these same boys dont respect their authority. I also hear black women saying how the world is tough enough on their boys so they need to get their affection from home. Let a man toughen him up. Oh and the imfamous I cant teach a man to be a man so I wait for his dad.
Now I know those are all different issues but lets start with the discipline. Lets be real no child will respect you if you dont discipline them. I dont care what your tactic is but discipline is NECESSARY!! *note that i said discipline not abuse!* I am a firm believer that you have to start young with displaying your authority with a child. You can not I repeat you CAN NOT wait until the child is 3 or 4 to try to become an authorative figure. By then the child already has figured out they can do what they want with you and will continue to be disrespectful. If you have a son you NEED to discipline him AND tell his dad so he can be disciplined twice. This ties into the issue of teaching a boy to be a man. Teaching a child respect has nothing to do with gender. So if you are his mother you can allow his dad to teach him to be a man but BOTH of you need to discipline and teach respect, guidance and life lessons.
My second issue is the pampering of these boys and showing them "affection." Now don't get me wrong. I am the first to hug and kiss my child, nieces, nephews, cousins etc. I do believe that little boys should be shown lots of love. BUT at the same time I believe in making them grow up. I have many friends (females) who have brothers. The female knows how to wash, cook, goes to college, finds an apartment, a job, manages bills EVERYTHING. But for some reason their brother, raised by the same person, cant do anything. They are sorry and looking for a women who will continue to take care of them. They stay home forever not ever really doing anything to help the household. They may pay a bill or two but if mom leaves the earth tomorrow they will live a life of fast-food or marry quickly to be taken care of. What kind of lesson is this. Why are we teaching our daughters that they have to be strong and take care of house and family but teaching our sons to be lazy!
Black mothers we must do better. The same way our daughters cook our sons should cook too! The same way our daughters clean, our sons need to clean too! The same way our daughters are taught to be strong our sons need to be strong too, maybe even stronger then our daughters. Lets raise our sons to be MEN not someone else's burden.
I know I had a lot to say today...but what do you think??? Leave a comment!
It's MommE-Talk!
So many times I hear black mothers saying how they will wait for their sons father to come home and then when those same boys are bigger they are so confused as to why these same boys dont respect their authority. I also hear black women saying how the world is tough enough on their boys so they need to get their affection from home. Let a man toughen him up. Oh and the imfamous I cant teach a man to be a man so I wait for his dad.
Now I know those are all different issues but lets start with the discipline. Lets be real no child will respect you if you dont discipline them. I dont care what your tactic is but discipline is NECESSARY!! *note that i said discipline not abuse!* I am a firm believer that you have to start young with displaying your authority with a child. You can not I repeat you CAN NOT wait until the child is 3 or 4 to try to become an authorative figure. By then the child already has figured out they can do what they want with you and will continue to be disrespectful. If you have a son you NEED to discipline him AND tell his dad so he can be disciplined twice. This ties into the issue of teaching a boy to be a man. Teaching a child respect has nothing to do with gender. So if you are his mother you can allow his dad to teach him to be a man but BOTH of you need to discipline and teach respect, guidance and life lessons.
My second issue is the pampering of these boys and showing them "affection." Now don't get me wrong. I am the first to hug and kiss my child, nieces, nephews, cousins etc. I do believe that little boys should be shown lots of love. BUT at the same time I believe in making them grow up. I have many friends (females) who have brothers. The female knows how to wash, cook, goes to college, finds an apartment, a job, manages bills EVERYTHING. But for some reason their brother, raised by the same person, cant do anything. They are sorry and looking for a women who will continue to take care of them. They stay home forever not ever really doing anything to help the household. They may pay a bill or two but if mom leaves the earth tomorrow they will live a life of fast-food or marry quickly to be taken care of. What kind of lesson is this. Why are we teaching our daughters that they have to be strong and take care of house and family but teaching our sons to be lazy!
Black mothers we must do better. The same way our daughters cook our sons should cook too! The same way our daughters clean, our sons need to clean too! The same way our daughters are taught to be strong our sons need to be strong too, maybe even stronger then our daughters. Lets raise our sons to be MEN not someone else's burden.
I know I had a lot to say today...but what do you think??? Leave a comment!
It's MommE-Talk!
Friday, May 7, 2010
Happy Mother's Day!
For those of you who are expecting, congrats you are about to enter a club where only the strong survive!
And for the vets, HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you keep up the good work!
Super Mom
So gentle, yet so strong.
The many ways you show you care
Always make me feel I belong.
You give guidance when I ask;
It seems you can do most anything;
You're the master of every task.
You're my cushion when I fall.
You help in times of trouble;
You support me whenever I call.
You have my total respect.
If I had my choice of mothers,
You'd be the one I'd select!
Thursday, May 6, 2010
I'm not your Superwoman
Good Afternoon MommE's,Yesterday a good friend and fellow MommE sent me an interesting article to read titled Lighten up on Yours to Have a Better Life. She said read this it will be great to discuss on your blog. So im taking her advice.
How many of you Mom's are trying to superwoman? I can admit I am! I work full time, and as you all know I am also working on my company The MommE-Shop. Outside of that I am planning my mothers destination wedding, being a mom, and I have started a new relationship. But I still feel its not enough! I want a radio show, travel agency, and I want to plan a fundraiser for a scholarship I just learned about. What is wrong with me?? Why do I feel like my worth as a person is determined by all the projects I take on?
As women, we often over do it. We work so hard to prove ourselves to others. And I think as women of color we take this ten steps further. At work we over compensate and go far beyond the norm to prove that we are as good as and better than our counterparts. We come home and take care of the kids and husband/boyfriend in an attempt to make them happy as well. Our family calls and here we come running with an S on our chest to make it all better. We join the gym because we have to lose 10 pounds. And after all of that we still want extra responsibilities.
But we have to stop!!! We need to take better care of ourselves and stop trying to run ourselves into the ground. WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH AS WE ARE! We don't have to prove anything to anyone. So MommE's in honor of Mothers Day, put your projects down, kick up your feet and enjoy your weekend!! Believe me YOU DESERVE IT!
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/wayoflife/05/03/o.well.lived.life.key/index.html
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Planning a Birthday Party
Summer is coming and it seems that so many children in my life have birthdays coming and parents are trying to figure out what to do next. I guess this is what happens with winter loving, we get summer and fall babies LOL. Anyway I thought I would share my advice on planning hassle free birthday parties.
My number one piece of advice is DON'T give a party every year. Why drive yourself crazy? Your child does not need an elaborate birthday celebration every year. Its a waste of money especially in the early years when they don't even know its their birthday. You get all stressed and the child usually doesnt even want to be bothered. And as they get older many children don't want to be bothered with parties either. Lets stick to the milestone ages 1, 5, 10, 15 or 16, 18, 21. and maybe 1 or 2 in between if the child really wants one.
My next bit of advice is find a place that does all the work for you. No matter where you are there are places that throw parties for children of all ages. They do everything from invitations, to birthday cake, and all in between. You dont have to set up or breakdown you just show up. Whats better then that? Many of these places are even using themes to help you out. Sounds great doesn't it? At the bottom of this post I have listed a few places in the NYC area that I think look fun.
If you are like me and have a child who has a birthday in summer months or around a summer holiday throw a BBQ. Whats easier then having a few people over and throwing some hamburgers and hot-dogs on the grill. Let the kids run around crazy. Hire a clown or character to come with some games for the little ones and if the child is older get some jump ropes and a basketball hoop. Or plan some relay races they will love that.
Do you have a daughter. The easiest birthday party of all time is slumber party. You order some pizza, let them rent some movies, paint each others nails, giggle and chat all night if they want. And you don't have to be bothered at all. AAAAH I sure can't wait for Jade to reach about 8 she will def have a sleep over LOL.
My final tip! If all else fails call a party planner. Leave the stress to the professionals. Sometimes the extra money spent is well worth it if you have no headache and no hassle!
Fun Party Activities:
http://www.totallyglamgirlsclub.com/default.html
http://www.thebirthdayzone.com/
http://www.daveandbusters.com/
http://www.chuckecheese.com/
http://www.appleseedsnyc.com/birthdays.html
http://www.creativedreamparties.com/packages.php
http://www.nykidsclub.com/Birthday-Party-Places-NYC.cfm
There are tons of other places in NYC these are just a few! If you know of any that you really love be sure to leave a comment!
Remember its MommE-Talk!
My number one piece of advice is DON'T give a party every year. Why drive yourself crazy? Your child does not need an elaborate birthday celebration every year. Its a waste of money especially in the early years when they don't even know its their birthday. You get all stressed and the child usually doesnt even want to be bothered. And as they get older many children don't want to be bothered with parties either. Lets stick to the milestone ages 1, 5, 10, 15 or 16, 18, 21. and maybe 1 or 2 in between if the child really wants one.
My next bit of advice is find a place that does all the work for you. No matter where you are there are places that throw parties for children of all ages. They do everything from invitations, to birthday cake, and all in between. You dont have to set up or breakdown you just show up. Whats better then that? Many of these places are even using themes to help you out. Sounds great doesn't it? At the bottom of this post I have listed a few places in the NYC area that I think look fun.
If you are like me and have a child who has a birthday in summer months or around a summer holiday throw a BBQ. Whats easier then having a few people over and throwing some hamburgers and hot-dogs on the grill. Let the kids run around crazy. Hire a clown or character to come with some games for the little ones and if the child is older get some jump ropes and a basketball hoop. Or plan some relay races they will love that.
Do you have a daughter. The easiest birthday party of all time is slumber party. You order some pizza, let them rent some movies, paint each others nails, giggle and chat all night if they want. And you don't have to be bothered at all. AAAAH I sure can't wait for Jade to reach about 8 she will def have a sleep over LOL.
My final tip! If all else fails call a party planner. Leave the stress to the professionals. Sometimes the extra money spent is well worth it if you have no headache and no hassle!
Fun Party Activities:
http://www.totallyglamgirlsclub.com/default.html
http://www.thebirthdayzone.com/
http://www.daveandbusters.com/
http://www.chuckecheese.com/
http://www.appleseedsnyc.com/birthdays.html
http://www.creativedreamparties.com/packages.php
http://www.nykidsclub.com/Birthday-Party-Places-NYC.cfm
There are tons of other places in NYC these are just a few! If you know of any that you really love be sure to leave a comment!
Remember its MommE-Talk!
Thursday, April 29, 2010
I dont like her! Now What
Hello MommE's,
Today's topic is one that sparks lots of attention and playground discussions. What do you do when your child doesn't like your ex's new Beau? A very good friend and I have been debating what happens when a child doesn't like the new person in your life or or Ex's life.
As a child, my parents separated when I was merely 2 years old. My dad and my stepmother have been together since I was about 5 years old while my mother dated (been in long term relationships) and is now remarrying. Over the years there have been men my mom dated that my sister and I didn't like but we had no say in the matter. We were to be respectful and that was that. And over the years the relationship with my step-mom has changed and gone from me not liking her to me respecting and understanding her much more. But again I had no say on if my dad would stay with her or not.
So now I am chatting with a friend who tells me her 4 year old doesn't like his fathers girlfriend. Her son has told her the woman is rude. When she asks her ex, he explains that nothing has ever happened and as a matter of fact the woman has little interaction with their son. In our conversation she continues by saying she doesn't feel her son should have to be around the girlfriend if he doesn't want to be.
So my response, don't be silly. Nothing has happened. Your son is 4 years old and he has no say! Many times as children we see things the way we want to see them and if we even have an inkling we can get our way we will try to. If her son thinks mommy doesn't like the new girlfriend well he doesn't have to either. Let it go. Keep an open line of communication with your son to make sure there are no issues but other then that move on. Pick your battles with your ex because along the way their will be plenty. And what happens when the shoe is on the other foot. When you get into a relationship and your precious boy doesn't agree. Do you want your ex calling you with nonsense?
So MommE's and DaddE's what do you think? This mom is looking for opinions and suggestions. Feel free to make a comment on the blog or comment on the FB page.
Just remember its MommE-Talk!
Today's topic is one that sparks lots of attention and playground discussions. What do you do when your child doesn't like your ex's new Beau? A very good friend and I have been debating what happens when a child doesn't like the new person in your life or or Ex's life.
As a child, my parents separated when I was merely 2 years old. My dad and my stepmother have been together since I was about 5 years old while my mother dated (been in long term relationships) and is now remarrying. Over the years there have been men my mom dated that my sister and I didn't like but we had no say in the matter. We were to be respectful and that was that. And over the years the relationship with my step-mom has changed and gone from me not liking her to me respecting and understanding her much more. But again I had no say on if my dad would stay with her or not.
So now I am chatting with a friend who tells me her 4 year old doesn't like his fathers girlfriend. Her son has told her the woman is rude. When she asks her ex, he explains that nothing has ever happened and as a matter of fact the woman has little interaction with their son. In our conversation she continues by saying she doesn't feel her son should have to be around the girlfriend if he doesn't want to be.
So my response, don't be silly. Nothing has happened. Your son is 4 years old and he has no say! Many times as children we see things the way we want to see them and if we even have an inkling we can get our way we will try to. If her son thinks mommy doesn't like the new girlfriend well he doesn't have to either. Let it go. Keep an open line of communication with your son to make sure there are no issues but other then that move on. Pick your battles with your ex because along the way their will be plenty. And what happens when the shoe is on the other foot. When you get into a relationship and your precious boy doesn't agree. Do you want your ex calling you with nonsense?
So MommE's and DaddE's what do you think? This mom is looking for opinions and suggestions. Feel free to make a comment on the blog or comment on the FB page.
Just remember its MommE-Talk!
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